Does Conscious Uncoupling Exist?

Actually it does! Conscious uncoupling means ending a relationship in a positive way where both parties feel like their lives would be better apart. It’s a way to leave a marriage, or any type of relationship, with your integrity intact.

Just because you’re breaking up doesn’t mean it has to be a knock out fight. Conscious uncoupling means you and other partner use higher reasoning and self-awareness to separate from each other.

It’s about acknowledging what did go right in the relationship, taking responsibility for what didn’t, and letting go of the rest.

Conscious uncoupling isn’t about who’s right and who’s wrong.

There’s no bad guy role in conscious uncoupling.

Even if one person is primarily to “blame”, there’s still no bad guy.

It’s about owning your role in the relationship and acknowledging how you’ve impacted each other’s lives. From this process you believe that both of your lives would be happier apart.

This way of ending a relationship is also effective if children are involved. The way and your partner handle conflict, even when separating, will not go unnoticed by your children.

If we want to create a world of more conscious children, we have to make choices through our actions to reflect that. You are your child’s greatest teacher when it comes to relationships.

Children are little sponges. Children imitate behavior. So try to do a breakup the best way possible. Plus your ex isn’t going anywhere.

Conscious coupling will also help with co-parenting to make it as productive and drama free as possible.

It’s a win win all around.

Unconscious uncoupling…

It’s hard to consciously uncouple if your partner isn’t on board the self-actualized train. Don’t get tempted to go to drama town with them. You can still practice these things to the best of your ability even if your ex doesn’t.

You can only control you. Don’t get sucked into fights with your ex. This isn’t a conscious way of living, it’s unconscious reacting. Don’t be pulled into their pointing finger blame game.

Rise above the drama…

If you’re thinking about ending a relationship and really sure how to do it click here. I’d be happy to guide you in the right direction to make your breakup as drama-free as possible.

In my couples counseling practice in Tampa I help people re-identify their relationships all the time. Even though breakups are a part of life, they don’t have to break us.

Work With An Experienced Therapist.